We all act selfishly from time to time. But when self-centered, immature and inconsiderate behavior becomes the norm, problems arise. Here are a few signs of selfishness that indicate it’s time for a change in your relationship.
1. Expect your partner to listen to complaints, but not do the same in response.
One of the biggest benefits of a close relationship is the ability to share your problems with someone who will take your side when the whole world is against you. It is on this feeling that you are understood and accepted that intimacy is built.
Expressing boredom when your partner starts talking about having a bad day, or acting like he’s a whiner and a bore, is like slamming an emotional door in his face. Even if your loved one does not protest such behavior, failure to listen can lead to loneliness in the relationship.
2. Boycott instead of discussing problems
There is nothing wrong with being angry or offended. But not even trying to talk to your partner while experiencing these feelings is a selfish decision. In romantic relationships, you have to have difficult, adult conversations from time to time. When one person refuses to do this, he can cause mental suffering to the other.
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3. Always consider your opinion to be the only correct one
This is a clear red flag indicating extreme selfishness. When someone all the time attaches importance only to his own point of view, which is correct in everything, he seems to be saying that he is in a relationship solely to satisfy his own needs, and he is of little or no interest in the needs of his partner. And when an alliance is not built on the principles of equality, it is unlikely to be durable.
4. Being too critical of your partner’s friends and family
For example, refuse to communicate with them, belittle them, look at them arrogantly, or otherwise express hostility towards them. This creates a disturbing imbalance when one partner feels superior in the relationship and becomes the judge who decides who will be in the other’s life and who should not be in it.
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5. Regularly accuse your partner of selfishness
People have a hard time tolerating qualities in others that they don’t like in themselves. This is why sometimes when one partner accuses the other of being selfish, it only reflects that their selfish demands in the relationship are not being met.
6. Get angry when your partner plans something for himself
Partners don’t necessarily have to be glued to each other 24 hours a day. Having your own interests and maintaining a balance between time spent together and time spent apart is good for a relationship. Making someone feel guilty about being an individual is very selfish.
7. Ignore your partner’s needs
In a healthy relationship, partners should know what brings pleasure to each other, and try to at least sometimes fulfill each other’s desires. Of course, this is a matter of balance: you shouldn’t always strive to please another person in everything, but it’s also not good to remain indifferent to his requests. Paying attention to a couple’s needs always pays off, even if they can’t always be met right away.
8. Threaten to break off a relationship if things don’t go the way you want.
Even in the best relationships, it is impossible to get what you want all the time. But if you constantly blackmail your partner with separation, he will never be able to be completely sure that the interests and needs of both, and not just one, will always be taken into account in the relationship.
Someone who truly loves has the maturity and awareness to understand how painful and hurtful it is to hear threats about being abandoned simply because someone didn’t get their way. Even if these threats are not real.
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